Attraction is a very powerful tool to use to get what you want,
if you know the proper way to use it.
People interact with each other on a daily basis, and most
times this is because one person needs something from the
other. Getting others to do what you want them to do is simple,
when you know how to do it.
In the business world, for example, you may have a product or
service to sell while the other person is looking for such a
product. To sell your product or service to them, you will have to
convince the other person that he will be satisfied with the
services you render according to his needs.
In other words, the way to get anybody to do what you want is to
make them want to do it.
Trying to get what you want through intimidation or force is asking
for trouble. Yes, it’s possible but not advisable to use forceful
methods, because the results are short term and can even be
disastrous.
So how do you get others to do what you want? Simple. Give them
what they want. That is the secret to attraction. And what is it that
people want? Good health, love, and financial security are the basic
desires of people.
But there is one important, yet intangible, thing everybody wants more
than anything else, and that is to be appreciated. Being appreciated
and complimented makes a person feel important. When you feel
important, you feel needed and wanted, and this gives you a reason for
existing.
So, how do you make someone else feel important? Tell them. Show
them. Give appreciation freely, honestly, and without reservation.
Saying how appreciative you are for a favor received or a job well done
will make the other person feel important and respected.
You may not be able to describe in words how being appreciated makes
you feel when you’re the recipient, but you know that what you feel is real
and priceless.
To get what you want through attraction, show the other person that - if
he does what you want him to do - it will, in turn, make him feel important.
Let’s take charity for example. You want a contribution from a prospective
donor. Even before the act of giving itself, the donor expects some from of
appreciation from you and this, in turn, will give him a feeling of importance.
But appreciation doesn’t necessarily have to be expressed in words. A
smile and a handshake could be sufficient, and they can come from both
you and the donor.
The donor shows his feeling of being appreciated, while you show your
appreciation for the contribution. A chemistry takes place. It’s a feeling
both parties would enjoy happening many times over.
So, to get others to do what you want them to, you must give them
something first. Make them feel special, important and appreciated.
But, be aware, your feelings must be genuine. You must truly appreciate
the person as a fellow human being, and not just because they are doing
something for you.
If you can truly feel that the person you are interacting with is important
and worthy, and can convey those feelings to that person, you will get
them to do what you want them to, and they will feel good about doing it
for you.
This is the most powerful way to get what you want through attraction.
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